For a while now I have been thinking about broadening the scope for what I write about on this blog. Not because I don’t love food, or because I am getting bored of cooking – I am not sure that will ever happen. But rather because I love writing, and have a myriad of different ideas floating about at any one time and sometimes I get excited over something and want to talk, think or write about that. In the past I have just written it down and left it on my computer because I write a food blog therefore I must talk about food. But I have decided food blog schmood blog. It’s my blog and I will write about whatever I want. So the rules are changing. Don’t worry though this isn’t going to turn into a bizarre vat of my inner thoughts where food no longer exists, it just means if I find something cool and want to share it I am going to regardless of whether it is edible or not. Because who made these rules that dictate what a good blogger should and shouldn’t write about! Enough of that, time for us to broaden our horizons.
With that in mind I wanted to talk about is kindness.
I was reading something that was talking about the ideals of a kind world. The book said, think of a time when someone has been really kind to you (check), and then when you have been really kind to someone else, and imagine that the world could and should always be this way and act in accordance. The first one was easy, I can think of a lot of kind things other people have done and do do for me. But the second one, well I just sat there with a blank mind.
And not because I am a mean person, or that I’m selfish or even that I don’t do nice things. I like to think I am good with people and a fairly positive to be around. But the idea of something truly kind well it got me puzzled. A lot of the time there seems a sort of purpose and thought behind the things I do, which often makes them seem hard. Kind seems like it should be a soft word and a soft way of being in the world.
What of course I realised is that the base problem is I am often not particularly kind to myself. When you get focused on goals, and doing certain things, like we all do at times in our lives, often it is hard to remember to be kind, to remember to not always hold ourselves up to what we think we should be rather just let ourselves be us. I think that sense of allowing everything to be as it is, to stop struggling and always fighting for something more, we will create space for kindness to grow. Because it is easy to be on a mission to achieve something, be in a rush to be somewhere, to need to tick that last job of your list, to judge others and ourselves for misguided actions. But when you stop, or at least when I did, I realised it is fairly easy to be kind to both ourselves and others, to let things be as they are and have a certain softness with the world. It might not come naturally especially living in a city, but it is certainly possible and I am sure a better way to live.
Next time I am asked to think about something really kind I did for myself or others I want to be brimming with examples. As I feel just like Happiness – Kindness is a wondrous commodity – the more you give the more you have.
But it’s a good place to start
As I said there is more to life than food, but as it’s a good place to start. My first act of kindness was baking these for a friend. Why not try making your favourite treat for someone you know.
Peanut Butter Millionaire Slice
For Chocolate Shortbread
2oz Caster Sugar
7oz Plain Flour
1oz Cocoa Powder
For Peanut Butter Filling
100g Cream Cheese
100g Icing Sugar
100g Peanut Butter
1tsp Vanilla Essence
200g Dark Chocolate
100g Milk Chocolate
Sprinkle of Sea Salt
- Preheat the oven to 180 degrees
- Mix the flour and cocoa powder, then rub together the butter, sugar and flour mix until you form a dough.
- Press mixture into a lightly buttered pan and prick with a fork. Bake for 35 mins at 180 degrees.(FYI – you could just stop here and make chocolate shortbread – which is yummy!)
- In the meantime for peanut butter filling mix together all the ingredients into a paste
- Once cooked remove shortbread base from oven and leave to cool, once cooled add the peanut butter base onto the biscuit
- For the chocolate topping melt the dark and milk chocolate in a double boiler and then pour over peanut butter topping
- Sprinkle over some sea salt and place in the fridge to set
- After a few hours these should be set, cut them into squares or bars and serve or package up and take to a friend
So get baking and stop for a second to be kind to yourself and to others. Oh and let me know what you think, did you enjoy reading this? Or are you hoping it doesn’t become a regular feature – Let me know, I would love to hear your thoughts!